self love

You Decide Your Priorities!

Hello, "You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage - pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically – to say no to other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger yes burning inside." ~ Stephen Covey (thanks Fran)!

The quote above and the song below reflect the same ideals- just described in different ways.  Never consider that YOUR priorities are not important.  While I do feel (because I have dealt with the results of ruthless people pushing a so called “spiritual agenda”) what is important to you is important.;  this does not give you license to run over other people but certainly frees you to say NO!  No, I don’t have time to do…..  No, I will not be able to attend….  Be strong, stand up for yourself.

Finding YOU is a journey.  This journey should start from the past, work its way up to your NOW and reflect all you truly desire in YOUR future.  If you are not looking out for you- who else will and who else SHOULD?

Be of strong courage- Say yes to yourself with love, and in joy.

I Still cry when I hear this song. Something about the raw honesty of wanting a “true” family and family HOME.  Please know that while we all have not had the best of childhoods, forgive what you can-let go of what no longer serves you and find your real family.  All of us belong to a “spiritual” family. This is the "family member" that you click with immediately, the one person you have stayed in touch with long after you or they left a job.  Those chance meetings that bring both friendship, solidarity and joy to both of your lives.  It is here for you. That I can assure you of!

Be blessed and thanks for reading!


Aaliyah – Journey to the Past live at the Oscars!

Why You Are Worthy Of Love, Devotion and Joy!

You can berate yourself for your “poor” life choices. You can believe your own lies about how ugly, fat, unlovable, unattractive, etc. you are. You can CHOOSE to believe all the bull you tell yourself on a daily basis. You have the “free will” to do these things to yourself.  However, you can CHOOSE to replace that negative self talk with positivity. Try telling yourself something positive every day, for 40 days. Mark the days on your calendar. For every day you only think positive thoughts about yourself, give yourself a check. First thing in the morning, think something loving about yourself. Put the check on your calendar.

For every time you think something negative, CANCEL that thought immediately and replace it with a positive thought. If you find yourself “unattractive” start looking for things you love about yourself. It can be your hair, your eyes, your hands, your feet. It can be your loyalty to your friends, your sense of humor or how good you are at math. This is your world. Look for and find the great things about YOU. Write them down if you must.  There is something beautiful in your being. FIND your beauty and stop being so lazy. Lazy about looking for ways to improve your own self. NO one can do this for you. NO one!

At the end of the day, give yourself another check if you cancelled your negative thoughts and replaced them with something positive. Do this daily.

This will take perseverance. You did not get low self esteem in one day. Nor will it go away in one day. It will take time. However, while you have the time DO something about the way you treat yourself.

While treating others is important, how you treat yourself is of the UTMOST importance. You (and God) are all you have. Period. Nothing and no one else can fill a void YOU have created. You must fill yourself up, first from the inside before you can add the layers of love that are ever present to you, if you would open your eyes to see.

Cause what happens when you have low self esteem is even when you find a partner, you STILL do not believe you are worthy of their love and devotion. YOU sabotage the relationship from the very start. So when it falls apart, you can then say “See, I told you no one would love me.” Love YOURSELF. Love all of yourself, the good, the bad and the ugly.

Start TODAY! This cannot wait another second.  Do it for yourself.  Do it Today!

Thanks for reading. Enjoy this joyous day!