You can berate yourself for your “poor” life choices. You can believe your own lies about how ugly, fat, unlovable, unattractive, etc. you are. You can CHOOSE to believe all the bull you tell yourself on a daily basis. You have the “free will” to do these things to yourself. However, you can CHOOSE to replace that negative self talk with positivity.
Try telling yourself something positive every day, for 40 days. Mark the days on your calendar. For every day you only think positive thoughts about yourself, give yourself a check. First thing in the morning, think something loving about yourself. Put the check on your calendar.
For every time you think something negative, CANCEL that thought immediately and replace it with a positive thought. If you find yourself “unattractive” start looking for things you love about yourself. It can be your hair, your eyes, your hands, your feet. It can be your loyalty to your friends, your sense of humor or how good you are at math. This is your world. Look for and find the great things about YOU. Write them down if you must. There is something beautiful in your being. FIND your beauty and stop being so lazy. Lazy about looking for ways to improve your own self. NO one can do this for you. NO one!
At the end of the day, give yourself another check if you cancelled your negative thoughts and replaced them with something positive. Do this daily.
This will take perseverance. You did not get low self esteem in one day. Nor will it go away in one day. It will take time. However, while you have the time DO something about the way you treat yourself.
While treating others is important, how you treat yourself is of the UTMOST importance. You (and God) are all you have. Period. Nothing and no one else can fill a void YOU have created. You must fill yourself up, first from the inside before you can add the layers of love that are ever present to you, if you would open your eyes to see.
Cause what happens when you have low self esteem is even when you find a partner, you STILL do not believe you are worthy of their love and devotion. YOU sabotage the relationship from the very start. So when it falls apart, you can then say “See, I told you no one would love me.” Love YOURSELF. Love all of yourself, the good, the bad and the ugly.
Start TODAY! This cannot wait another second. Do it for yourself. Do it Today!
Thanks for reading. Enjoy this joyous day!
Michelle D. Smith is a visionary and spiritual gladiator seeking to share awareness with many. She is a published author who writes a relationship column for Black Refer.com.The different niches for each site allow her to reach a variety of people to amuse, entertain and inspire.
Her self published book, My Life As A Mermaid was selected for inclusion in the Baltimore County Public Library's Local Author collection!